Are You Lonely? Who's Your Squad?

Are You Lonely? Who's Your Squad?

In January, KJ became the Chief Operating Officer at Girl Catch Fire and took over operations at Intermissionary which, because of her, is now a 501c3 non profit.

Yesterday, I said to her, “Ok don’t freak out but I have something I want to do.”

Then I remembered KJ doesn’t freak out - ever. I’m the freak-out artist and I need a rock, a builder, a believer; someone who will say yes to the right things and no to the dumb things. She is all that and more.

“I want to do a life-coaching surf retreat in Costa Rica next spring,” I said.

“Cool. Do you want me to start figuring that out.”

How to Get Strong and Free.

How to Get Strong and Free.

So if you’re resigned to fear, inertia, boredom, isolation, selfishness, or aimlessness, YOU ARE NOT FREE. All that stuff is diminishing you, stealing your potential and keeping you from your good life purpose.

I’m not saying my life is easy now, it’s just hard in different ways. I had to confront my own fear, shame, loneliness, anxiety and love of control. Believe me, it’s a process, but you can’t get free and whole without swimming that moat, and the only way you become a good swimmer is by swimming.

What if you're not broken?

What if you're not broken?

If suffering is actually a vital part of human development - and Paul says it is - why don’t we quit beating ourselves up for experiencing it.

Maybe you don’t need someone to fix you. Maybe you need someone to walk with you through it, helping you keep your eyes on the prize.

What is a Firegirl?

See, you have a destiny on your life and until you get busy doing that thing you were created to do, and loving a bunch of people along the way, your rut will only get narrower and deeper. It’s not about chasing happiness, it’s about living in your good purpose.

“But what do I do? I’ve tried everything and nothing changes,” you moan. 

We get it. We’ve been there, but we got out. 

The Scariest Thing I've Ever Done

The Scariest Thing I've Ever Done

In some ways, I was the best version of myself in Africa, because Mercy Ships, my colleagues and God forced me to be. They kept putting me in situations where I had to confront my fear of failure and relentless need for perfection. The Esther Project was a perfect example.

It’s tempting to want to run back there because Mercy Ships was the fire by which I warmed myself while I learned what I know about God and faith. However, there comes a time to build your own fire - so others can keep warm while they learn it too. This is why Girl Catch Fire exists.

How to Go Placidly Amid the Noise and Haste

How to Go Placidly Amid the Noise and Haste

When we feel like we’re not enough.

We run harder and faster, furiously comparing, plotting and driving ourselves - to what? To that place where we have no worries? Sorry to tell you but that place doesn’t exist out there - it’s an inside job.

But when we choose to go placidly amid the noise and haste, we find God doing the work and not us, and He has been all along.

I forget this. Sometimes it takes a migraine to remind me.

Seriously, Is This All There Is?

Seriously, Is This All There Is?

If you enjoy the first three levels on Maslow’s hierarchy, every day, almost without thinking, who is better equipped than you to help someone who doesn’t even have level one?

Whether across the world or across the street, those people are everywhere, and you - middle to upper class American women - are in a position to send your elevator back down help them up.

And actually, that’s where your own joy and esteem is found.

How To Live a Very Good Life

How To Live a Very Good Life

There are lots of reasons I drive myself so hard - perhaps you do the same - but wise, free women get to the bottom of that well asap, because it’s for freedom we were set free. We ought not be slaves to our made-up stories.

Ultimately, a good life is nothing more than a long series of days, deliberately made good. One after the other, strung together like pearls on a necklace. After years of this, you look back at what is, in fact, a very good life.

It's a Process.

It's a Process.

Three Things:

  1. If you are going to choose courage over fear and do the thing God designed you to do, it’s going to cost you things you can’t imagine. However, most of those things, you were never meant to have anyway.

  2. The fire is painful. Ask me. Ask Billy Beane. Ask Elon Musk. Ask any artist or creator who has decided to make something out of nothing but a wispy curiosity.

  3. The pain is normal and is critical to your growth and refinement.

Stop Waiting. Make a Move - Intermissionary Part II

Stop Waiting. Make a Move - Intermissionary Part II

I knew when the time was right - not too early, not too late - Girl Catch Fire would hire an operations manager: Someone who could catch the vision, sort it out and action it in fun and innovative ways. Even when I was first starting the company, KJ’s name was on my dream list.

Well, the time is right and KJ is now officially on board at Girl Catch Fire.