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Seventy-five years ago, Harvard University began tracking the lives of 724 young adult men - their careers, their relationships, and their health - attempting to learn who will still be active and vigorous in their 80s and why. Sixty of those men are still alive and active in the study. What have the researchers learned?
"Good relationships keep us happier and healthier, period," says Dr. Robert Waldinger, director of the study, who did a marvelous TEDx talk on the topic.
It seems so simple. Cultivate good relationships, tend to them, be with people, forgive them quickly, and...
Ten years ago, I started hosting an event called Love Dinner. I didn't really know what it was for at the time, other than I was in a new town and feeling lonely.
It felt like kind of a holy idea.
Perhaps, if I'm feeling lonely and disconnected, others are too. So, I called a few women I'd met on a trip to Southern Africa, and invited them to my house for dinner. I made something tasty, got a few bottles of wine, lit some candles, and let 'er rip.
In the ten years since, that little event has grown way past my dinner table - to different cities, different countries even to a hospital...
You know overthinking is just fear in disguise right? We think we're being prudent, but usually we’re just avoiding something that scares us.
We hide behind perfectionism (which is often a trauma response) and call it “excellence.”
Sound familiar?
If you learned early either by accident or design that perfection = love, then failure is out of the question. Because love and belonging are central to human survival and “failing” at anything is too scary.
To overcome perfectionism, we have to practice taking action, in a safe community, with full acceptance that it...
For a while now, I've sensed something shifting. I mean obviously, the planet is shifting, careening even, but I mean internally, for me and us in this little community.
Midlife is often marked by a yearning for something undefined. Know what I mean? It sounds like "I just know there has to be more than this." Is this all there is?
The honest answer is maybe. It's up to you.
Two Things:
#1 - I talk with my staff and clients all the time about the second mountain, a concept I learned from author David Brooks' book by the same name. If you've watched my latest training, you've...
Reverend Timothy Keller died yesterday, after a three-year cancer battle, and I can’t stop thinking about who I would be had I never encountered his book The Reason for God: Belief in the Age of Skepticism.
I bought it on the same day I picked up Bob Goff’s Love Does. They were displayed right next to each other on the table at Barnes & Noble. It was 2009, and I’d never heard of either man, but obviously, I was searching; somehow trying to believe in God again.
I’ve read two dozen of Keller’s books since, so I’m wistful and plaintive over his...
I’m not overstating when I say Ted Lasso had more impact on me as a coach than coaching school did. That’s because coaching school changed what I do. Ted Lasso changed who I am, or at least who I aspire to be.
#TedLasso is my hero and now that the show has “ended” here are some ideas worth considering.
(This post is full of spoilers. Proceed with caution.)
1. It’s not about us. Trent Crimm entitles his book about Richmond’s Cinderella season, The Lasso Way. The only edit Ted leaves for Trent is to change the title because it’s not about him and it...
